When you see the girl in the mirror, do you like what you see? How about your friends and family?
Or do you ever see or hear a friend talking about themselves in a negative way? Don’t you just want to shake them until they see how ridiculous they’re being?
We’ve all been in that position where we want to convince someone that we care about how they perceive themselves. Where they might only see their own flaws, you see all of the things that make them an amazing, unique and beautiful person. It can be heartbreaking knowing that they see themselves a certain way. And they won’t listen to you when you try to convince them otherwise.
Well here’s the big question, if you can extend that kindness and generosity to your friends and loved ones, why can’t you do it for yourself? Do YOU love the girl in the mirror?
A lot of people find it incredibly hard to treat themselves with the respect and kindness they reserve for others. So what can you do? Well, the key is to start being able to see the good things about the girl in the mirror. Now, this is not necessarily something that is easy to do, but it is by no means impossible. It just takes some time and effort to learn to do for yourself what is so easy to do for the people you love. Here are a few simple things approaches for learning to love the girl in the mirror.
Change what you can, accept what you can’t
We all have those days when you just want to change everything about yourself and become a completely different person. Whether it’s your height, your weight, or anything else, it’s incredibly easy to constantly compare yourself to other people and to want to change. Of course, the problem is, some things can’t be changed.
You can’t really make yourself taller or shorter or change the way your body is naturally structured, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t things that you can do. If you feel unhappy with your physical shape, then there are always things that you can do regarding diet and exercise, although the most important thing is to be as safe and responsible as possible.
Some people even go so far as to have certain procedures done in order to change things that they’re really unhappy about. This should be something that you only ever consider if you’re absolutely sure that it’s the right choice for you. If you’re looking at changing something like the shape of your nose, for example, then you can view options at NonSurgicalRhinoplastySydney.com.au.
One thing that is important to remember, it might not actually be physical things that you want to change. Perhaps the way that you treat people leaves you feeling unhappy about yourself, or maybe you don’t feel like you’re productive enough. Those are things that you can change simply by adjusting the way that you think about your life. Once again, the other important thing is to remember that, if there’s something about yourself that you can’t do anything about, all you can do is to come to terms with it.
Learn to forgive yourself
Everyone makes mistakes, sometimes they’re small things and sometimes they’re much bigger. Sometimes you can make mistakes that cost jobs, friendships, even relationships. The only time when you really have a problem is when you refuse to move on and accept responsibility for those mistakes.
However, there’s a big difference between taking responsibility for your actions and beating yourself up over them. It’s important to be able to take responsibility for something but then move forward in your life. That way you’re able to take the things that you’ve learned from that experience and avoid making the same mistakes again. If you’ve hurt someone, then they may not want to forgive you. But if you’re truly sorry, then the important thing is that you move on and learn to forgive yourself rather than try to convince them to forgive you.
There is so much hate out there for selfies! That, by itself, is pretty ridiculous. Let’s say that there are no positive benefits to taking selfies (and there definitely are, but we’ll get to that in a minute), does that really matter? Who is it hurting if someone else decides they look good and what’s to share it on social media? At worst, selfies are basically harmless. However, selfies have a much more positive impact than a lot of people assume.
Selfies help people come to terms with their own faces in a way that is difficult to achieve any other way. They allow you to curate the image you create of yourself, finding which angles you like the most and what kinds of lighting make you look great. These kinds of things might be “shallow” to some people, but they really can make a huge difference to the way people perceive themselves. Taking selfies can help you see the girl in the mirror in a kinder, more generous way. So don’t listen to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise! Take out your phone and get snap happy!
It’s okay to be a little bit selfish
This is something that a lot of people really struggle to learn. Selfishness is not inherently a bad thing. If you spend all of your time trying to do everything for other people, then you’re going to exhaust yourself. There’s only so much emotional labour that you can give out before it starts to take its toll on you. When that happens, a lot of people start to think of themselves as some kind of failure for not being able to help other people all the time.
But it’s just as important that you take care of yourself as it is that you take care of others. Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t take the time for a little self-care when you really need it.
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