Accentuate the positive! The Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin, was right. Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative. Wise words. But is that easier said than done? These tips will help you put a positive spin into your life.
As the desire in every single one of us is to live a long and happy life (depending on your personality, of course), there can be times when life threatens to derail us. It’s an incredibly difficult experience when we go through testing times in an emotional sense.
But as the experience wears on, we can feel that inclination to give up. You’re not the first, and you will not be the last. And while people can tell you to “remain positive”, you may want to tell them that they can shove it where the sun don’t shine!
Keeping a positive frame of mind is one of the most difficult things, especially when everything in life is threatening to undermine your happiness. Maybe you are going through grief, a medical problem, or you’ve just been hard-wired for negativity all this time. What can we do to maintain a sense of positivity during the most difficult times in life?
Accentuate the Positive: Avoiding Victimisation
Playing the victim is easy. It means that we have a get out of jail free card. But playing the victim only works for so long. After all, playing the victim means that we can get, in some ways, what we want, but with minimal effort. But playing the victim is doing your pride a disservice.
The big issue is that we follow the trend set by others. They play the victim, so naturally, we should do, right? Well, no. Playing the victim means, over time, we are weakening our attitudes. If we play the victim, we end up embodying this characteristic.
So, while there are experiences we go through in life that naturally weaken us, from treatment for medical illness, like chemotherapy, a notoriously difficult time indeed, do you want to play the victim so people can wait on you hand and foot? Or are you going to feel guilty about this at some point?
When people near the end of their life, everything comes into focus, and people realize that maybe they let others walk over them, or they didn’t do enough to look after themselves. Playing the victim is such a learned pattern that we can stick to it our entire lives.
But if we are to learn and grow, we have to remember it’s these conflicts and these difficult instances that force us to trust our instincts and go into difficult areas of life, and that’s when we’ll know what we’re made of.
Accentuate the Positive: Looking After Your Sense Of Self
Your body is your temple, but so is your mind. What can give us a sense of perspective during difficult times, apart from avoiding victimizing ourselves, is to ensure that we are indulging in the best practices to keep our mindset as well maintained as possible.
After all, going through difficult times in life can wear away at our mind, body, and spirit. As a result, finding some form of self-preservation isn’t ignoring the issue, but learning how to improve our physical and emotional strength.
It doesn’t feel like it at the time, but learning how to look after our mind, and minimize the stress of the situation isn’t just beneficial for our physical health, but it improves our mental health as well.
Depression and anxiety are common symptoms of difficult scenarios in life. And what we have to remember is that our mind is very similar to our muscles. By training ourselves, and acclimatizing to difficult situations, we can learn forms of resilience.
Yes, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. But it’s not about being as flippant as this, it’s about understanding that these instances in life can be learning experiences.
At the same time, we need to focus on these instances, and not separate ourselves from them, which can be easy to do when it comes to a learning experience in life is concerned, but dealing with it head on and engaging with the issue means that we are processing it in a healthy manner.
Yes, it can be difficult to keep a smile on during the most arduous of emotional times. Everybody has their own coping mechanisms. But it’s not about plastering a smile on our face and faking it, but it’s about learning that these issues in life do threaten to derail us, but they don’t have to.
People that get diagnosed with a life-threatening illness, or they are told that their illness is terminal, after the shock, the topic of palliative care, and addressing the best way to live their life comes up in the doctor’s office.
When we go through difficult issues in life, focusing on the positive isn’t just a coping mechanism, but it’s actually the best outcome for everyone concerned.